”It’s just bad timing…. nothing personal….”
Umm yeah… it is. And truth be told, it’s the female equivalent of a guy saying “I’m just not ready for anything serious line”. And while persistence (and an Isley Brothers CD) worked in the case of Darius Lovehall (btw… I’m not sold that it was his real last name… I mean, have you ever come across a Lovehall? Ever? I think his real last name was wack like Wilkins… Darius Wilkins), the chances of it working for you may be as likely as a Love Jones/How To Be a Player/Soul Food sequel/reality TV/reunion show. These are the underlying things that “It’s just bad timing… nothing personal” means…
It is you. Let’s be real… if Idris Elba, or Ishmael Butler from the Digable Planets (specifically listed for my FBFF) or The Rock suddenly stepped to her, and wanted to get to know her during a rough patch in her life…. she’s not turning that down. So the reality is that the bad timing only applies in the land of ordinary, where the ordinary guy is likely to have bad timing throughout the duration of that woman’s next three lifetimes… which leads me to…
Forget what Erykah Badu says… there is no next lifetime. And for whatever reason it is, you didn’t get the girl. And by next lifetime, you’re feeling someone else and so on and so on… unless you come back as a snail or a goldfish. Then I don’t know what the hell to say to you.
“Love… makes things happen. You never where it’s coming from… you never know who ya gonna love…” I am a firm believer in the notion that from a love standpoint, you tend to know the difference between someone that brings that spark when they step to you and the ones that don’t. And regardless of how we like to spin it… when it comes down… it is indeed a muthaf**ka. (Note: This only applies to single people… married folk… you’ve made your choice… this blog is just bad timing… nothing personal. )
Know your role… and shut your mouth! Women have a pretty good idea of what they want with you within the first encounter. You can be long-term, short-term, friend zoned, or no-termed. Bad timing usually paints you in the role of short-term or no-term, so if you are lucky to even get to short-term with a woman that says that to you… just accept it and take it for what it is.
Be willing to let it go. If you really like someone, this is sometimes the hardest thing to do. You wanna wait until the timing is better, or talk yourself into thinking that it’s really not you personally… but let’s face it. The truth is that bad timing doesn’t ever mean they’ll be good timing. The timing will always be bad, because you’re not THE guy. This is not Martin Luther King… so lose the dream. Just let it go… and just walk away.
It’s just my interpretation… of the situation…. (Spottieottiedopalicious) What do you think?